Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You Patricia Evans
Publisher: Adams Media Corporation

I can talk about the complete lack of respect that she shows by not valuing my time and for thinking that she is more important than I am. [Read: 20 signs you're a people pleaser and don't even know it!] Who is a control freak? [Read: 16 ways to handle controlling behavior in a relationship]. People are far less frustrating, disappointing, and upsetting once you release them from the expectations that you've placed on them to behave the way you want them to. "If you rebel against it, you will just get more of it," says Jean-François Manzoni, a professor of management at INSEAD and co-author of The Set-Up-to-Fail Syndrome: How Good Managers Cause Great People to Fail. And almost always, it'll hurt you more than any good it does to you. Trying to change what they do, what they say and even how they say it. Much that upsets me and makes it difficult to deal with her. A control freak is a person who wants to be in a position of control all the time. #5 You' re a bad listener who doesn't like hearing the other side of the story, and you never try to understand another person's point of view because you think you're right anyway. For the last 6 weeks, I've been enthralled with a book by Patricia Evans called Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You. Label anyone who exercises a degree of control as a micromanager; Defy the micromanager — that often triggers the behavior you are trying to avoid; Try to tell a boss that he is overly controlling unless you know he may be open to hearing it.